Ask Slashdot: Good Ideas For Creative Gaming With Girlfriend? 337
First time accepted submitter TimBur1e6 writes "Suppose you had just moved 1000 miles away from your significant other, but you wanted to continue to create shared life experiences. You could text, or talk by voice, or even video chat. And those would all be good things to do. However, there's a difference between telling someone about your day, and actually spending time together. What are some fun and constructive ways of spending time together on the net? In particular, what are good things to do with a significant other who is less into combat, and more into collaboration, exploration, creativity, and storytelling?"
You've fucked up. (Score:0, Insightful)
You've fucked up.
Why would you even do that?
synchronised movie watching (Score:4, Insightful)
my how far... (Score:0, Insightful)
/. has gone downhill in the last dozen years...
really sad...
Github (Score:3, Insightful)
Start or join an opensource project and work on it together.
Nothing like some real achievements, which actually help people who use the software for real. Some game achievements don't quite compare.
Re:You moved 1000 miles away? (Score:3, Insightful)
This depends to some degree on your age and how long you have been together, but unless you've been married or similarly commited for a significant length of time, or you expect them to join you in a definite period of time, it's not worth trying to hold together. There are other fish in the sea.
I get the impression, given the time of year, that you may have just gone to college, in which case, generally speaking, it's already over. The only real question is how long it takes you two to realize it.
Dating advice from slashdot. Really?
Long Distance Relationships work. I was in one for over a year, and am now happily married. They are hard, but the poster isn't asking for our advice on the relationship.
All I can say is that my wife and I played lots of online games together, from Battleship to Gin. We kept it varied, and played mostly casual games, though we did rock the Diablo II for a while.
The best person to talk to about this, really, is your girlfriend.
Best of luck.
Re:my how far... (Score:5, Insightful)
This.
It really makes me sad how many geeks, who spend much of their adolescence and young adult lives complaining (quite justifiably) about our toxic jock-centered culture, still manage to absorb a lot of the lessons of that culture and carry them into adulthood. I understand how it happens--it's much the same reason so many children of abusive parents grow up to be abusers themselves--but that doesn't make it okay. A big part of becoming an adult is learning to move past that, to be a better person than you were conditioned to be.
Re:Let's see... (Score:4, Insightful)
Re:1000 miles away (Score:3, Insightful)
Honestly, unless you're over 50, sustaining a relationship with someone over a prolonged and indefinite period of time from a great distance is probably a terrible idea all around. Obviously, this might not always be true if you're just moving away for part of a year for work or one of you has to move before the other . . . but otherwise, it probably makes more sense to call it and find someone local that you can actually have a relationship with.
Re:You've fucked up. (Score:2, Insightful)
Real Life not Second Life (Score:3, Insightful)
The only game you're going to enjoy is called "unpleasant few months splitting up with my girlfriend despite good internet access because moving 1000 miles away from her means the relationship is over".
You will learn a great deal in the process, mostly concerning the fact that the most important part of a relationship is lots of time spent together sharing real life experiences and, yes, good 'ol fashoined sex.
Sorry dude, but time will teach you that this just wasn't going to end well, no matter how much in denial you were when you made the decision to make this move : I've made the same mistake myself in the past when bandwidth and communiction possibilities were less advanced than they are now but the bottom line is you put a career opportunity first and this is the price you will almost certainly have to pay.
Re:You've fucked up. (Score:2, Insightful)
Why would you even do that?
Bingo.
What's the end-game here? Are you moving where she is? Is she moving back? When? If you don't have concrete plans as to how you're going to be back in the same place (e.g. "She's gone home for the summer, she'll be back in September") then just end it, cause it's doomed anyway.
Re:Skype and other things. (Score:4, Insightful)
God damn, I remember when I was a teenager and in one of my first handful of relationships, the girl wanted to constantly be on the phone (even though we only lived like thirty fucking miles apart). It was like having a fucking anvil tied to my ankle. I mean, I can get that occasionally. LIke every couple of weeks. Especially if you're a great distance apart. But every mother fucking day? When you're practically in the same city? Good god...
I really envy kids of the last 5-10 years. More options to feign "attention/communication" without it necessarily directly interrupting things you need to be spending your time doing.
Answer (Score:4, Insightful)
Re:You've fucked up. (Score:3, Insightful)
Re: You've fucked up. (Score:5, Insightful)
If they really are spectacular together, I wouldn't suggest them being apart for any reason. The pain is just too much.
Re:You've fucked up. (Score:4, Insightful)
I can tell quite a few of you pussies have never been in the military.
If you end up in the military you have nobody to blame but yourself.